As many of you know, the LGBT community has faced a recent string of hate
crimes, including the horrific murder of a young man in the West Village and
three more possible incidences just this week. We at the Center joined many of
you to respond with sadness and outrage this past Monday for a March and Rally
Against Hate Violence. Whether you were here in person or in spirit, you were a
crucial part of spreading the message that the LGBT community is strong, united
and unwilling to accept this senseless hatred and violence.
To help us all feel safer in these troubling times, the New York City
Anti-Violence Project will launch the Friday Community Safety Nights initiative, beginning this
Friday, May 24. Every Friday night through the end of June, AVP
will be doing outreach in neighborhoods affected by anti-LGBTQ violence to
raise awareness and provide people with information and safety tips. They will
work to bring community members together to talk about what we can do to address
and prevent this violence – and you can help! AVP needs dedicated volunteers
and concerned community members to join them in bringing the message of safety
to the streets.
To join AVP for the first Friday Community Safety Night, please contact Tasha Amezcua
at tamezcua@avp.org. Please also know that
AVP offers support and assistance via their free and confidential 24-hour
bilingual (English/Spanish) hotline at 212.714.1141, where you can speak with a
trained counselor and seek support. You can also report violence anonymously
online to www.avp.org.
We are sincerely grateful to AVP for all that they do, and to you for being
part of what makes our community so special. Stay strong, and don’t hesitate to
reach out to the Center if you need help by calling 212.620.7310
or emailing info@gaycenter.org.
With Memorial Day weekend fast
approaching in the United States, the flyers start to appear.Some read “Beach Fest”, “Freak Fest”, and
“Urban Paradise”.They all
advertise some kind of Caribbean get away and most of them feature an overtly
sexual image of a bikini clad Latina, who is meant to represent the island
where the weekend fantasy escape is being held.Set against a backdrop of pristine blue waters, white sand
and upscale resorts, she has a “come hither” look in her eye that promises, for
your weekend package of less than $1,000 all inclusive, a non-stop roller
coaster of freaky beach fun.Throw
in some urban, rap or Latin music celebrity involvement and a good time will be
had by all, right?
Source: www.urbanparadise2013.com
In the February 2010 issue of Essence Magazine, writer Keith Murphy blew
up the spot with an article “Fools Paradise” which detailed that men, and
especially African American men, are traveling to the Dominican Republic for
“sexual vacations”.As a young Dominicana, who grew up in
the neighborhoods with some of the very girls and young ladies who are
exploiting themselves (and being exploited) for sexual gain of tourists, I
thought I take a closer look at the link between prostitution among school aged
youth and the “new” sexual tourism these weekends promote and how the two contribute
to the spread of HIV and other STDs among the diaspora in the Dominican
Republic and neighboring United States.
I was born and raised in the Dominican
Republic.Growing up I would
witness a lot of women from my small neighborhood standing outside, into the
wee hours of the night. I grew
very curious about why these young women would wore exotic clothes with heels
and stood to wait for cars driven by men to pick them up. I never understood the reason behind
this till I asked my mother one day. I was 11 at the time, still hitting puberty and very curious
just about anything. When I
have asked my mother about it, my mother said, “that is the work place for most
of those women”. I didn’t
understand why someone would go to work dressed in such manner and have pickups
from different men at different times of the night. I guess at that time I was young to understand prostitution
so my mother kept it from me.
Prostitution has always existed in
every corner of the globe, and goes as far back as time itself. While in many countries, including the
United States, prostitution is illegal, in the Dominican Republic, it is legal,
as long as a third-party does not benefit (e.g. a pimp, brothels, etc.).No go betweens.In some countries, it is usually
not viewed as a “serious crime”. This
is seen as a morality issue instead. Every country has their specific respective view of
prostitution and the Dominican Republic is no exception.
In general, prostitutes are depicted on
American television and in Hollywood films in a wide range of ways from drug
addicted homeless women lurking in the shadows of urban city streets to high
priced escorts who cater to some of the richest men in the world.Growing up I had no idea the
pretty faces with great bodies and provocative clothes were simply doing their
job, selling their bodies. Since I
lived in middle class neighborhood prostitution was common for both sex.More often young girls, more so than
young boys, were seen being escorted by “johns” who will go to get a pickup in
exchange for money.Quickly rumors
spread about girls my age and especially the ones infected with HIV/AIDS.
My mother offered no help.Sex was – and still in – a touchy
subject in my household. My
parents were very private when it came to this subject.When I came across my menstrual cycle
my mother was the only one who opened the subject but wasn’t entirely open to
it either.I completed elementary
grades first through fourth grade in the Dominican Republic.In my opinion, public education in
Dominican Republic is not that great, as compared to United States.I was attending public school in my
neighborhood of Santiago in Dominican Republic, when sex education was
introduced to me.Typically, in
DR, when it comes to boys, typically families they never speak about the
subject.Men just grow up with the
influence of what is around them in typical neighborhoods.Parents don’t talk to boys about sex
the same way they talk to girls.Girls are handled in a more protective, strict and prudish fashion. They are not aware or taught proper sex
education.Most families in
Dominican Republic are either Christian, catholic or Jehovah Witness.Religion and cultural mores play a huge
role in how a child is raised and educated about sex.
After leaving the dangerous streets
back in my country, we moved to a tiny community of Dominicans in downtown
Brooklyn.Sex education became
more clear and respectful to talk about it with my school counselors in public school,
where I finished my puberty years. Now in the United States, I began to see the same pattern - girl
friends that would work late hours and miss school because of their alternative
way of living. Now college
aged, I am more sexually educated and aware of the sex trade that exploits
young girls and women.Flyers that
advertise my favorite artists will appear during Memorial Day Weekend “urban
fantasy escapes”, or even during Spring Break vacations, are meant to capture
my attention, but I often wonder if the young men, some my peers, who are
attracted to the promise of unbridled sex, are thinking about the
consequences.Surely, everyone is
not packing condoms in their swim trunks for the nighttime beach bikini
affair.Unfortunately, some of these
“urban fantasy escapes” can lead to unwanted HIV, STDs.Not exactly the music video
fantasy advertised on the flyer.
According to statistical data from the
Presidential AIDS Council (COPRESIDA), in the Dominican Republic it is estimated
that approximately 46,500 people are living with the HIV virus.Statistical data revealed that 18%
of the AIDS cases reported in the country occur among young people of 15 to 24
years olds.
These are only with the possibility
that some may have children infected as well. The disease has greatly affected the female population, as it
has become the leading cause of death among women of reproductive age. There are currently 23,000 adult women
between the ages of 15 and 49 with HIV/AIDS. COPRESIDA stated in the same article that HIV/AIDS has also
greatly affected children in the Dominican Republic. Estimates indicate that they’re 2,200 children below the age
of 15 infected by the disease, and that approximately 58,000 children were
either orphans or at risk of becoming orphans because of HIV/AIDS infected
parents.
The especially disturbing news, given
the sexual tourism trade that flourishes on the island, is that the main mode
of transmission of HIV/AIDS in the Dominican Republic is through heterosexual
sex. According to the article, “HIV/AIDS and the Dominican
Republic: A look at a Pandemic” (http://dr1.com/articles/hiv.shtml), roughly 1.7% of the Dominican
population has been infected with the disease, which translates to an estimated
46,500 people infected in the country. Of the 46,500 infected with HIV/AIDS, 23,500 are adult men
between the ages of 15 and 49.
According to the US National Library of
Medicine, the abstract article of “HIV/AIDS
and Tourism in the Caribbean” (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2791250/), published January 2010, “Studies suggest that tourism areas are epicenters
of demographic and social changes linked to HIV risk, such as transactional sex”. It
continues that “Despite this, no formative HIV-prevention studies have examined
tourism areas as ecologies that heighten HIV vulnerability.”
While there is still a sexual tourism
epidemic, many charities and organizations are collaborating together to stop
and limit the spread of HIV (and other STDs) by informing people and creating
policies that provide protection. Some of the local main organizations where you can
always find information are the DREAM Project, Outreach 360, Sister Island
Project and the Una Vida organization. Mainly all of these programs share the common mission to
spread the awareness of this fast growing epidemic disease that is ending
pretty young lives.
Looking at the statistics on HIV/AIDS
in the Dominican Republic and the Caribbean can be overwhelming, but it could
be said that there is a move towards curbing the rise of the pandemic in the
region. I hope with the help of
new volunteers and other organizations we are able to decrease this number of
infected people and continue to empower communities with interventional
educational programs for the younger crowd who sweeping the streets right now;
and also who the highest in risk of being infected. I hope that other young Dominicans like myself, will
stem the cycle of not talking about sex and take time learn more about HIV and
other STDs.We need to
collectively talk more openly about sex and break the cycle of silence, for all
of our sakes.
Source: www.dr2013.net
I hope that all children born in the
Dominican Republic have the opportunity to receive an education and learn to
their full potential. It is my hope
that organizational efforts can be multiplied to allow the opportunity for
every child and adult sex education be met with support. We cannot do so unless we break the
cycle of poverty and change people’s destinies in alleviating poverty,
strengthening education, and enhancing public health. It is my dream that the world will be a
better place for the children and families of the next generation.
We can’t do it alone.So, before you book that “urban oasis
fantasy getaway”, ask yourself, will what happens on vacation, really stay on
vacation?Think about it.
